As addicts, we often try to convince ourselves that we don’t have a problem. I’m not addicted. I don’t use that much. I’m not really hurting anyone, to name a few of the most common deceptive lies. For those struggling with addiction, self-deception is a constant battle.
Denial and Addction
A look at how this toxic mix disrupts lives.
Has your recreational drug use morphed into addiction? This blog explains how to recognize the signs, end the denial, and get help for your substance abuse disorder.
Why the promises we make to our romantic partners often are not true.
You have just met the person of your dreams. You are swept off your feet—completely in love and excited to create a future together. Living on Cloud 9, you believe that you have found your one and only. It is the natural high of falling in love.
Celebrating Children’s Lies
Why lying is normal (and healthy!) for very young children.
As the mother of a 3-year-old daughter, I am increasingly exposed to the alarming (yet adorable) reality of early childhood lying. A couple of months ago, my husband came to me laughing. He was playing with our daughter and she wanted a treat. Knowing that he would ask her what I would say, she looked him square in the face and said: “Mommy said ‘yes’.” Then she paused, tilted her head slightly, pointed her index finger in the air, and said very seriously, “But don’t ask her!”
Goodbye 2015, Hello 2016!
Reflecting on 2015 can help propel you towards an amazing 2016.
New Year’s Eve, 2015. It is a time of great opportunity. A time to reflect on the last year: your choices; major life events; relationships; career; family; and health. It’s also a time to set goals for the year ahead. 2016, here we come!:
Now is a perfect time to get brutally honest with yourself: About where you have been; where you are now; and where you want to go.
Take 10 minutes today to sit and reflect on your life. Ask yourself the following questions:
Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex?
Three big lies we tell ourselves that keep us stuck in old relationships.
Our minds have a way of tweaking the truth, especially when we think about our ex’s. Sometimes we think of our ex’s more negatively than is objectively warranted (He or she was the devil!). Sometimes we think of them more positively (I will never find someone as amazing as he or she was.). Sometimes we try to avoid thinking about them all together (Let me jump into a new relationship fast!). And sometimes we can’t stop ruminating about them (Please help me turn off my mind!).
American Psychological Association Honors Dr. Cortney S. Warren
Dr. Warren receives the 2015 Minority Fellowship Program Early Career Achievement Award
TORONTO, Ontario, Canada, August 8, 2015: How many women and men dislike their appearance and weight? How do eating norms and ideals of beauty differ across countries and ethnic groups? Are we responsible for our own emotional reactivity? How does our inability to be honest harm our romantic relationships? How honest can we be with ourselves about who we really are?
These are just a few of the meaningful questions that Dr. Warren explores through her research and clinical practice. Provocative and compelling, Dr. Warren’s work earned her the 2015 American Psychological Association Minority Fellowship Programs’ Early Career Achievement Award.
Live As If You’ll Die Tomorrow—Write a Will Today
Writing a will is not something that most of us think about. Or talk about. Or want to think or talk about. Because writing a will reminds us that we are all going to die.
Death is a topic that causes most of us incredible fear, pain, and discomfort. The mere thought that our child, parent, or partner could die at any moment petrifies us. So, when it comes to our own mortality, it is not surprising that we would prefer to avoid the topic. In essence, writing a will is something that we rationally know we should do but politely avoid because it is unpleasant to plan for our own demise.
TEDxUNLV, April 11th, 2014. Honest Liars: The Psychology of Self-Deception Did I really agree to give a TEDx talk on self-deception? What was I thinking! How am I going to help people see how we lie to ourselves, understand the costs of our self-deception, and start us on a journey towards choosing honesty in 13 […]
I am often struck by the way we use the word luck in everyday conversation. By definition, luck is something that benefits or hurts us by chance alone. Luck has nothing to do with our choices or effort—luck is accidental. Sometimes we have good luck: we correctly use the word to describe positive situations in […]