How do people become mass shooters? Self-Deception plays a critical role.
As addicts, we often try to convince ourselves that we don’t have a problem. I’m not addicted. I don’t use that much. I’m not really hurting anyone, to name a few of the most common deceptive lies. For those struggling with addiction, self-deception is a constant battle.
Navigating Social Media Interaction after a Breakup. Twitter. Instagram. Facebook. Snapchat. Tinder. LinkedIn. Social media is everywhere. According to the most recent 2016 Neilsen data, adult Americans spend an average of 25 hours a week using some form of media. In these outlets, we are inundated with celebrity updates, breaking news, and personal messages on a minute-to-minute basis. Including information about our ex.
When everyone has an opinion, it helps to understand which are more valid. Without question, the political situation in the world during the last year has been one of the most stressful in recent times. It has led all of us to hear more opinions than we can count. Or, care to! Opinions about everything from taxes to abortion. Medical care to religion. Mental health care to race relations. Gender identity to gender-neutral bathroom signs.
Fighting the Holiday Urge to Splurge
Preparing for honest holiday eating and health-related behavior.
Most of us have a very hard time being honest with ourselves about our eating and health-related behavior. Especially during the holidays! It is a time of year when we make myriad excuses about why we don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, or cut back on unhealthy habits like smoking and drinking.
Watching Myself Die
Why legal end-of-life options are essential to dying with autonomy and dignity.
Imagine that you were diagnosed with a terminal illness. Not only will it inevitably kill you, but you will suffer incredible pain as your body deteriorates to the point where you cannot function independently. There is no cure. There is very little treatment. Eventually, you will be unable to walk, talk, move, or even swallow without machines.
The Lies Lovers Tell Survey
A recent study uncovers how we lie to our lovers (and justify it to ourselves)
As a clinical psychologist deeply interested in lying and self-deception, the most common questions I get from readers are about romantic relationships. Questions like: How can I trust that my partner is being honest? Why am I attracted to people who aren’t healthy for me? How does lying and self-deception affect our relationships?
Why the promises we make to our romantic partners often are not true.
You have just met the person of your dreams. You are swept off your feet—completely in love and excited to create a future together. Living on Cloud 9, you believe that you have found your one and only. It is the natural high of falling in love.
Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex?
Three big lies we tell ourselves that keep us stuck in old relationships.
Our minds have a way of tweaking the truth, especially when we think about our ex’s. Sometimes we think of our ex’s more negatively than is objectively warranted (He or she was the devil!). Sometimes we think of them more positively (I will never find someone as amazing as he or she was.). Sometimes we try to avoid thinking about them all together (Let me jump into a new relationship fast!). And sometimes we can’t stop ruminating about them (Please help me turn off my mind!).
Most of us absolutely love music. We are compelled by it. We are provoked by it. We are moved by it. We are inspired by it. We feel connected to it. It reflects something profound about who we are and our experience of the world. If I asked you to tell me your favorite bands, […]