Dr. Cortney S. Warren, PhD, ABPP

BOARD CERTIFIED CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST • RESEARCHER • AUTHOR • SPEAKER

cortney warren

Dr. Cortney S. Warren, PhD, ABPP

BOARD CERTIFIED CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST • RESEARCHER • AUTHOR • SPEAKER

My Name is _____ and I'm a Recovering Liar

Truth and LiesChoosing to be honest about our self-deception is very difficult. It forces us to confront things about ourselves that we don't want to be true. We will want to deny them. We will want to forget them. We will want to hide them from other people. We will want to run away. We will want to bury the information as quickly as possible.

So how do we start admitting the lies we tell ourselves? How do we become a more honestrecovering liar?

One way we can help ourselves become more honest is to tell another person the truth. For anyone who practices the 12-steps, this will sound very familiar: Step 5 requires that you admit the nature of your wrongs to another human being.

This is your chance. This is a platform for you to acknowledge what you learned about your lying to Dr. Warren and anyone else who chooses to read this website. You are welcome to list your first name, although you do not need to.  This is your chance to get honest with yourself and another human being. Choose to become a recovering liar: admit to yourself and another person the lies you tell yourself.

I am a shopaholic

March 22, 2014

I have a bad habit of shopping for things I don't really need. When I get home with my new purchases I don't tell my husband. If he notices something new, I tell him that I've had it forever and that it is not new. He doesn't even care if I buy things, and we can afford it, but for some reason I am not honest about my purchases.

Struggling with Depression

March 6, 2014

I like to think of myself as a very smart person who rationally lives life. I believed that my emotions don't affect my thinking because I am smart enough to manage my own biases. The truth is that I have been struggling with depression for the last year after losing my father to cancer. As I look at my emotional state, it is clear that my sadness is clouding my ability to reason. And it is making me feel worse.

Sarah

March 6, 2014

I tell myself that I will be happy when I lose weight. I have been telling myself that since I was a child. The truth is that if I am not happy now, 10 pounds is not going to help.

Mike

March 6, 2014

I realized that I thought I completely knew myself. Then I started reading your book. Needless to say, I was wrong.

Inflating the truth

February 19, 2014

I have a bad habit of exaggerating to the point where it really is a lie. The other day someone asked me how many people attended an event I had. I told them there were around 100 people there, when really there were only around 60. I know it isn't right but I can't seem to help myself.

Anonymous

February 19, 2014

I cut in line at an event yesterday by lying to the ticket person. I rationalized it by saying that my child was tired and we couldn’t wait as long as everyone else.

My Spending Habits

February 19, 2014

I am a student and struggling financially. For my New Years resolution, I decided to write down all of my expenses and stick to my budget. I was going to be responsible. But I haven’t stuck to it. I did it for a week or so and then stopped because I was already spending more than I was supposed to. The truth is that I don't want to be responsible with money. I want to live a life where I can have whatever I want when I want it even though I can’t afford it. So I haven’t changed yet.

Exercising

February 18, 2014

I say that I am going to start exercising tomorrow. But tomorrow turns into the next day and the next day and I never actually do it.

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